The Stories We Tell...

I had a story, for forty years. A story I held onto. The story of my wounds that never made me feel good. Often, reluctant to tell it, because the emotions that “I felt” with just the memory of the stories, left me feeling angry and hurt. I did not want to cry, I was taught that crying was a weakness, and show how hurt I really was. This story never moved me forward.

What my stories did do; they made me feel upset, angry, resentful, dis-empowered, manipulated, unloved, unworthy, sad, victimized, and angry with the people in my story. The gravity of these emotions creates strong impressions in our biology. I did not know this then. Now, looking back, with a new perspective, I can see where a lot of my physical ailments stemmed from my imbalanced thoughts and “the chemical residue of the emotions” that I had. Leaving an impression of feeling “immobilized” from the pain. The strength of the emotions triggers, and sets in motion, stress chemicals throughout our system. Every time we tell the story, the “thought- feeling cycle”, is being conditioned to the body, and the trauma of the story begins to live within the tissues of our body.

One day, I read a quote from Tesla, “I have better things to do with my time than to look backwards at the past”.

And, of course, one of my favorites,
“Change your thoughts, and you change your world”.
-Norman Vincent Peale-

We allow the past to define us. It does not have to be this way.

We all can get hooked into old stories and narratives, that grew out of our own attempt to make sense of experiences in our childhood, but ultimately are inaccurate and no longer serve us. We do our best to make sense of our world, but because of our limited ability to see things from a more complex perspective at a young age we can internalize inaccurate messages from these early experiences that lead us to believe that there is something wrong with us. We wrap our limiting beliefs around these stories and these stories can be detrimental to our well -being.

The stories we tell over and over, to ourselves, and ANY other willing participant, can become beliefs about the very nature of who we are. About our worthiness, our value and our “enough” ness.

Our perceptions of the world are BUILT from these beliefs, and so important for us to observe and question “our own thinking processes”. This enables us to choose our own path for our future and not continuously taint the present moment and the future with the poison of our past emotional hurts and our beliefs. Often, these stories can become so automatic that we no longer question them. We may not even realize they are there, but if left unchecked, these stories could take a strong emotional toll and can limit the choices that we make in our lives and our potential to live our fullest life.

We hold ourselves and others hostage to our stories. These stories are powerful and impact our physiology.

Understand that the story came from a limited view, a limited perspective. As a child, we did the best we could, to make sense of our world, now as an adult we can rewrite the story, to reflect a much broader and more complex understanding of things. A big new perspective. (Beth Kurland PhD)

Our own words, our stories that we tell, often make us catty, competitive, vicious, and judge-mental, only trying to make ourselves feel better. These stories are “energy fields and vibrations” of victimization and dis-empowerment, that we repeat over and over.

When we hold tightly to these stories, an imprint is left in our Auric or our Bio-field. We have more than one body. Our bio-field is our energetic invisible body that we will talk more about in another blog.

These imprints are energy cords that keep us bound to the players in the story. These are energy feeding tubes, that keep our body nourished with the sour milk of anger, resentment, pain and hurt. Every time a thought is nurtured, and the story told once again, the neural networks in our body and brains become stronger and nerves that “wire together fire together” (Dr. Joe Dispenza). The more we tell our stories, the more we are reinforcing patterns of victimization, hurt and pain.

Dark imprints and patterns in the Auric Field, (called bio-field in scientific community), can be carried to the next life. It contains the information to produce the disease, but remember, it is the environment that either up-regulates or down regulates the information in that imprint. A wound in the Auric or bio- energetic body field can show up in our physical body as it becomes “denser” in energy.

Dr. Candace Pert has proven that neuro-peptides, the scientific chemicals triggered by emotions, are actual THOUGHTS converted to matter.

These patterns are strong and are reinforced and tightly bound together by the magnetic forces of our thoughts and feelings and can stir up ‘characteristics’ densities of the subtle matter and increase the density of our human body.

Extra unwanted fat?

Pain and inflammation in neck, back, knees, shoulders?

Hard, fibrous knots throughout the body?

Possibly, Unresolved emotions and chemical residues?

Do you know how the energy of "feeling" can become “denser” in our body?

First, a “charged feeling”, sets up shop in the energetic bio-field, then the physical body. If the “charged feeling” is one that does not serve us, then this can create inflammation, pain, and disease, as the pattern is reinforced. Slowly and unknowingly, creating imbalance. It can even show up and inform our DNA. These dense energetic patterns interfere with the electrical and chemical communication system in our body, creating another genetic legacy for our children.

Every time we think and tell the story, our FOCUS on a thought, creates the energy, and the feeling attached to the story, creates the “charge” that sets in motion, a release of chemicals each time it is told. The chemicals must go somewhere. They do not just disappear. They become part of who we are. These chemicals are either the healthy chemicals of love, gratitude and forgiveness, or the chemicals of hate, resentment, judgement, and pain, that are left within the framework of our body.

When we speak ill of others, we are only writing our own story. Our biology is affected by every emotion we put out… When we realize this, we become powerful in our thoughts.

We infuse the neural network of the story with more energy and it continues in our reality. Reinforcing it generationally, straight to our kids.

As we tell the stories of the PAST, our brains do not distinguish between, what is happening in the present moment, or when the story occurred. The “actual event” and the “perceived event” have the same effect in our body. Our brain just knows chemicals and hormones. The brain only understands the chemicals and hormones that are produced from the “feelings we have” from the story.

Research has confirmed that brain cells translate the minds (beliefs) of the world into complimentary and whole chemical profiles that when secreted into the blood, controls the fate of a 50 trillion cells.

The path of the story is in our neural network, and this pathway becomes reinforced, every time we tell the story. A rush of chemicals is released, leaving chemical residues, altering our biology every single time we tell it. Frozen circuits are connected to strong emotions. The more we “think” a thought, its pattern becomes frozen in the brain. The more we remember, the more chemicals are being released in the body.

Just a mention of any player or person in our story, will create energy that surges through our body, once again, feeling the feelings all over again. Unleashing a fury of chemical residue in the body’s framework because we have failed to recognize it, navigate it, and transform the energy into useful energy that serves us. This leads to imbalance, inflammation, and disease. Then the cycle repeats itself. A terrible, vicious, unending cycle.

To continue, our story of victimization, there must be a perpetrator. If we want to feel sorry for ourselves, we must have someone or something to blame for our powerlessness, or we invent one. We all have an illusion created by our stories we tell. Recalling our wounds, our pain and our hurt.

When we feel like a victim, we need a rescuer, a prince charming to set us free “from our story”. Then we begin to move from victim, to” noble rescuer of other victims,” that we feel are more dis-empowered than us. Often switching between these roles. Eventually, they become like canals in which the energy is drained constantly through the stories. Depleting us of our life force energy that creates harmony and balance in our lives.

We become mentally and spiritually crippled, by continuing to repeat the stories of our wounds. Literally crippled, as the pain manifest in our body. Beginning in subtle ways, such as tension, inflammation, then eventually pain. We buy into our own powerlessness and become crippled and paralyzed by our own thoughts.

“I am too hurt and too wounded to have any power in my life” often blaming others for their woes.

-Abraham Hicks-

We need to break away from all the stories. The stories of old. The stories of victimization and powerlessness that create drama that traps us.

When we do not recognize these "thinking patterns" we continue to create a culture of powerlessness that expresses itself in different ways with fear anxiety and disconnection. The self -help industry of “talk therapy” often centers around “the stories”. Homing in on them, reinforcing the “energy sucking stories”, repeating them over and over. They often prescribe medicine that creates further imbalance, and only hides the symptoms and manifestations of our “own thoughts and perceptions” of the stories we tell of our past.

We do not teach how to break out of the stories that we tell. We identify ourselves as victims all the time to the world often competing with one another on who has the heavier load to carry or the worst story, who suffered more or who is going to say sorry first.

As humans, we like comfortability and familiarity. Because of this, we will resist the notion, or possibility that people and situations change.

What we do not understand is, that it is OUR change first, that creates the new story. If we profoundly change our perceptions, then our outside environment must change – It is a universal Law.

The Law of Attraction.

When we say, “the circumstances cannot change”, what we are really saying is,

“I cannot change”.

-Abraham Hicks-

If WE want a change, then WE must make it. Not someone else.

The energy that binds us, and cuts us off from our vital energy, is just like a parasite, and will continue, if we continue replaying our paralyzing stories. The real parasites are the stories that we tell ourselves and others. This leads to a feeling of suffering and keeps us locked into the past. When we are locked into stories of our past, we are unable to live in the NOW, as these stories cloud our world with their chemical toxins and dim our current perceptions of life.

Changing the thoughts begins to rewrite the new story.

As we navigate and release these old stories, we must have compassion for ourselves, and nurture the” child” within, that may be still experiencing residual emotional pain. The adult is here, and we can comfort the inner child that was hurt just by looking through a new lens.

Identify our limiting beliefs.

We must let go or hold our story lightly. Observing our stories from a distance as we tell them. Ask ourselves, what happens in our body as we tell our stories and the things that we think are true. Pay attention to our body and our body's responses and our reactions. Watch impersonally without judgment, as the story begins. Let go of the feeling, instead of grabbing for thoughts that enhance the story and makes it bigger, let go and begin to observe. Practicing non- judgement for our ourselves. When we begin to learn “non-judgement “, of ourselves, we become more compassionate and non-judgmental of other people and their journeys, understanding that each and every one of us has a story and has been afflicted in some way.

Disengage from the thoughts and emotions of the past and returning to the present moment. It is when do this that we begin to break the energetic bond to that person or problem or painful experience. When we do this enough times, we are no longer ruled by dis-empowering emotions. We choose to consciously move our attention and focus away from the thoughts that do not serve us. We do not pretend they are not there, we CHOOSE to look through a different lens. One with more understanding and compassion, both for ourselves and the people in the story. A bigger perception of the story, one that serves us.

Emotions guide thinking and shape decisions. Uncontrolled expressions of emotions often lead us to regret. If we really understand the emotions, we can cut off its motive power, and that neural pathway slowly dies away. Learning to cultivate non-attachment to our stories, things, and people.

Identifying the stories helps us to learn about ourselves. We must be brutally honest. This is where we flex the muscles of courage and begin asking ourselves…

Why am I telling this story?

How does it make me feel?

Why am I acting or reacting this way or feeling threatened?

Do I really believe this story, or is there another perspective?

Why am I choosing to focus on something that does not make me feel good?

Am I fueling negative stories that taint my body with poison, or conscious stories that fill it with light and the healing force of health and happiness?

Is it a TRUE story, or a story told from a limited perspective (such as stories from our childhood)? They are stories, not necessarily facts.

Why am I always repeating the same story,

10, 20, 30 even 40 years later?

Is it helping me, or hurting me?

Be a silent spectator noting each movement and the emotions that are happening within us as we tell the stories.

Slow down

Step back

Look at the situation from all angles.

“The healing is in the feeling”. When we understand the feeling, we can transform it, or we can continue to nurture it and make it bigger.

“Clinging” to our stories, our hurts, binds us to our personal physical world. Never moving to a more evolved state of mind. We hold ourselves and others hostage to our past stories. We do not hurt others with these stories, we hurt ourselves. Only teaching our kids the same patterns and hurting our own progress through life.

The so called “demons” in our lives, is just OUR inability to let go of the stories, and OUR CHOICE to suffer from them. It is not a demon that haunts us, it is our inability or our unwillingness to “let go”, creating unrest and havoc in our biological system.

“Letting Go” means to navigate it from a healthy state of mind. Not “stuffing” the “emotions” away, but actually “transforming the energy and vibration” of victimization, to the energy of conscious awareness, no longer being defined by our stories.

Dr. Joe Dispenza explains when we see or perceive from a new level of mind, true forgiveness begins to take hold and breaks the emotional charge and energetic bond to our painful past, whatever that may be. What we are left with instead, is a memory WITHOUT an “emotional charge” and this is called WISDOM. Liberating us, to create a new future for ourselves, our families, Humanity and Mother Earth.

“It is necessary for us, to attend to the well-being of ourselves in order to be a productive advocate for others”.

-Abraham Hicks-